Sitting here this morning I've been contemplating the way people judge what another person would do in any given situation. It has occurred to me that they place their judgements on what they, themselves would do if they were in the same situation. The contemplation was because of some recent events that at first confused me, then I pieced together the motivation behind the move.
It still confused me as to why it was thought that there was a need to do anything at all. I don't need to go into the details of what happened, but it finally hit me that they responded in the way that they did because they were responding to what would have been going on had they been in the other persons situation.
Interesting. I believe that we all do that at some level. I know that I have a very hard time believing that people do some of the things that they do because it would never have entered my mind to do such a thing. Does that make me naive? Maybe. I guess that I would like to see the world revolving around the standard that I live my life on. I have been told that it is a fairytale land and that it doesn't exist.
I think that it does exist, this world that I see and believe in. It isn't wide spread, but I've met so many people that think like I do and it is a refreshing thought. I have a client that struggles with people not liking her, "why? I'm a nice person" she tells me ... I can relate to those thoughts. Then I realized that there are people that you believe know who and what you are, who and what you believe in and you realize that they never knew you at all. When it comes down to the wire, they react based upon what they would have done in the same situation.
All I ask of everyone, including myself, is to keep an open mind in this world. Don't base your judgements on what you would do in any given situation. Take a step back, take a deep breath, and look to your heart for the truth of the situation. Your heart will give you the correct answer in all instances.
