The Addiction of Emotional Pain

There are many thoughts that pass through my mind at any given time. It is hard to sort all of them out at times. Then suddenly, one thought comes to the front and stays there. That's when I know that I am being sent in a direction and it's time to put some more of my thoughts into written word.

I know someone that has a very difficult time dealing with emotional pain. She has been a Client of mine, though at a distance, and while her session did hold some physical attributes, it was really more of an emotional reading of where her spirit was at the moment. She is the sweetest person, she is warm, loving, open, honest, but then she can also be full of self-pity, slipping into a cycle of not appreciating what she really is and what she really has. This leads to a bout of self-talking that creates so much emotional pain that she literally sends herself to her knees with the pain of it all.

Why would anyone do something like this, if it causes them so much pain? Why would anyone want to bear that much pain. They wouldn't be doing it, if they weren't getting something, somewhere, out of it. Negative attention is sometimes just as powerful as positive attention when it is given in the right instance. Some people like it when they can ball up into their own misery, they hold on to it as though it were a security blanket. It's something that they can feel, it's an emotion. It's not laughter, but it is something and it's very real.

To ask them, they would deny that they want this emotion. When it is a cycle, when it keeps coming back, this huge emotional pain, then there is something that is driving it. It's like an addict that gets clean for a period of time, but then something happens and they are driven back to the drug of choice as they need that hit again. They don't care that their intellectual mind is telling them all the reasons not to do this, their emotional self is the driving force. For whatever reason, the drug of choice in this instance is emotional pain and the intellectual mind can't keep her from pushing herself back down to where the emotional pain takes control.

It's easy for me to say to her to stop and think about what she is doing. Say those positive self affirmations, stop in your tracks when those negative thoughts come up and change them around to positive ones. I'm not the one in the middle of things. I can send Reiki, que it up for when it's needed, but until she is ready, truly ready, to give up whatever it is that she is getting from this emotional roller coaster, it isn't going to help her long term. She will block it.

The first step has been taken. The acknowledgement that there is a problem and that it lies within her. The answer also lies within her. There is always support when those first steps are taken. There is a difference between being supportive and being an enabler. The work has to come from within and she has to be ready to do what needs to be done. Reiki will support her, love will support her, the angels will support her, all she has to do is ask.