I wrote a blog the other day on what unconditional love isn't. It was pointed out to me by a very dear friend, that maybe I should write about what unconditional love really is. What it means to me.
My definition of unconditional love is just that, love without any conditions attached to it at all. It means that I love you as you are and I don't expect you to love me back. I don't expect you to support me financially, to buy me gifts, to be my emotional support, to listen to my problems, or to be anything other than the person that you are. There is freedom in unconditional love. When you love freely, with no expectations, you are also free to be you. You don't need to worry about being a certain way so that the other person loves you. You aren't expecting them to love you in return, it isn't a condition of your love for them.
Unconditional love and freedom, what a pair! It is something to strive for, learning to love unconditionally. It's not an easy thing to do. It's so easy to just say, you should do this for me, because I love you! Hmmm, that doesn't sound unconditional to me.
I think that true, unconditional love, is not an easy thing to achieve. Everyone seems to want something in return for loving them. Even if it's just an acknowledgement that you are aware that they love you. I am working toward pure unconditional love. I want to have the freedom that entails. I want to have the purity to be what and who I am, to lead by example, to love completely and freely, those around me.
This is another step on my journey, to realize that I can love in this simple way. That all that I need is within myself. I can love with no expectations and enjoy the freedom that gives me.
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